Did you know that we spend majority of our time living in the past or the future? It’s so common that we don’t even realize that we are doing it. I’ve been focused for a long time on how to stay present – in the “now”. It’s not easy!
I’m going to discuss how I came across these ideas, what it really means to live in the now, and what things have helped me accomplish living in the now. However, I do warn you, it’s a work in progress. It’s inevitable we will surely fall into the past or the future because of our experiences or our worries, but accepting that helps us become aware.
Are you ready to live in the now?
What is The “Now”?
“Present” meaning “occurring or existing now” or “now” meaning “at the present time or moment”.
It’s not always straight forward asking yourself if you truly live in the present. I started to wonder about this a few years ago, how do we know we are living in the present and consistently do so?
I started reading a book called Becoming Supernatural by Dr. Joe Dispensa (I will link it here so that you can grab it off Amazon). I have yet to have time to even finish the book and I have been raving about it since I started it. Dr. Joe Dispensa has been studying the supernatural for years, or in plain English, “analyzing our brain frequencies”.
Have you ever walked into a room and automatically felt the tension or the emotion from the people there without having any context? Or noticed when someone was staring at you? This is because we all put off energy or frequencies that are a second language we don’t even realize that we speak. The light waves we emit are exactly correlated to the energies that we put off. Happiness and joy tend to have high frequencies and grief and hate have low, dense frequencies. You get what I mean…
Becoming Supernatural by Dr. Joe Dispensa (I’m an Amazon affiliate – this is at no cost to you.)
So what does this have to do with being in the present?
Being in the present is realizing that at this one moment right now, we have the ability to control our frequencies, energies, and actions. Stop for a minute and think about that. You cannot change yesterday, you cannot fix tomorrow, but you can right this minute choose how to feel and what to do, This is what being in the present is, actively choosing and activating your frequency. Once you figure out how to be consistent with that, you can harness “living in the now”.
Living in The Past or The Future
You might be asking yourself – how am I not living in the now?
I spent time pondering this as well, and I found some more useful information from the book referenced above. I am going to quickly define two things for you:
- Emotions: the chemical releases in our brain when we respond to events
- Memories: the emotional responses we remember from the experiences we had
Let’s first discuss what the past can do to us.
The past is created and shaped by the experiences that we have had. Our emotions are directly tied to memories, which is why large, traumatic events can impact us for a long time. If we think about emotions, as defined above, they are simply the chemical responses our brains have to our surroundings. Higher emotions create more impactful memories, and therefore curate the past. The past can harm us because we become accustomed to those chemical responses.
For example, you experience a really bad breakup (everyone has had one). You will go through a range of emotions and, dependent upon your experience, you may walk away from that relationship with some emotion baggage. The chemicals that get triggered by your past experiences with relationships tend to impact the way you are in new relationships.
Although a certain extent of baggage is what we call being wise, but when we allow the past to impact our “now” decisions and feelings, we are not living in the present, we are living in the past.
The future is curated by our worries, fears, and desires.
Our past helps us gain the knowledge to help us estimate what might happen, what is likely to happen, and what we want to happen. Again, this is wisdom. However, when we become consumed with the negativity that has happened to us before, and worry or fear for it to occur in the future, we are now living in the future. We are also doing something called wasting our energy in the wrong time frame. Instead of worrying about what may go wrong (manifesting it actually), we should be manifesting and consuming ourselves in the now.
When we pull our energy out of the memories of the past, and the worries of the future, we have all this energy to pour into right this moment. We can imagine, manifest, and create a new life for ourselves by simply taking what we know and what we don’t know and focusing only on what is right here now.
How to Stay Present
There are a few activities I have been working on that have helped me stay in the now, including some I have researched.
- Asking yourself constantly these variation of questions:
- Do I feel happy right now?
- Are my decisions right now supporting my happiness?
- Am I being by best self currently?
- Right now, am I focused and aware?
- Yoga or meditation
- It’s really important (especially according to Dr. Joe Dispensa) to find time to spend with yourself so that you can truly tap into your energy.
- Yoga and meditation have given me a space where I can re-harness my energy away from my worries and emotions and recreate my current moment.
- Surrounding yourself with likeminded, positive people
- You’ve probably heard this before but if you have 4 idiot friends, you are the 5th. If you have 4 incredibly intelligent and influential friends, you are the 5th.
- People that help elevate your energy are very important to keep around, I cannot stress this enough.
- Being alone so that you can recreate yourself is much more impressive than hanging out with toxic people so that you’re not lonely.
- What you are, you attract.
- Reading or learning
- Learn from others and feel empowered that you don’t know it all yet. Like I said, it’s a work in progress.
- Read, listen to podcasts, watch videos.
There are a plethora of things you can find will help you consistently stay in the now, but I find the first two listed the most important. Mental practice asking yourself those questions will help muscle memory and also refine your natural chemical responses to things. It will give you the ability to choose your feelings and actions more intentionally. Spending time alone will help you be able to recognize your behaviors and emotions, which gives you more control.
Next Steps Towards Now
My big influences here were both my personal challenge to live in the now and the book I began to read by Dr. Joe Dispensa, be sure to check it out and grab it off Amazon in the link above.
There a few more books that I recommend to boost your mood and elevate your energies, check them out in this blog post: 5 Books Proven to Boost Your Mood.
Until next time, be present, manifest your dream life, you got this.
By, Delaney Lawrence